Jealousy in an Open Relationship – He Slept with Someone



Longterm Relationships

There are four possibilities for 95% of long term marriages (5% are successful monogamist marriages and monogamist longterm relationships with a happy and fulfilling sexual life):
1. Cheat = mostly destroying and traumatizing your children and family.
2. Becoming a sexual brother and sister relationship = love deepens and erotic fades your children and family will be ok, but you will become a old person very quickly
3. Serial monogamist, every five to ten years a divorce with new sexual partner = mostly destroying and traumatizing your children and family.
4. Being honest with each other about the need of sexual, emotional variety, adventure, exploration and find a consensual respectful way (non-monogamy in all it 1001 ways, see chart… etc.) to not breach each others boundaries so both partners can enjoy, be inspired, feel free and be happy! Affairs, adventures with your partner, freedom, natural instincts, is about excitement, being alive, seduction, flirtation, love, affection, sexual bliss, lust, caution, eroticism, fantasy, danger, adventure, exploration and the determined refusal to grow old gracefully.
SHAME, GUILT, CONTROL AND FEAR is where traditional inspired monotheistic religious marriages are founded on! Adults, free, healthy and independent people have to free themselves from all this negative feelings and boundaries.

Stop Jealousy


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A crazy, crazy word! Could you imagine what great place this world would be…. no divorce, no lawyers, no suffering, happy kids…
Is an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. It is sometimes identified with parents‘ pride in their children’s accomplishments or one’s own excitement for friends‘ and others‘ successes. It is commonly used to describe when a person experiences positive feelings when a lover is enjoying another relationship. It is an OPPOSITE of jealousy.
“La transmutation totale de la jalousie est possible (même si elle est rare). Elle porte alors le nom de compersion (terme anglais n’ayant pas encore d’équivalent français): le sentiment de joie et de réjouissance lorsqu’une personne que l’on aime vit des instants heureux ou partage du plaisir avec quelqu’un d’autre. C’est une forme d’empathie épurée, où l’on devient capable de partager le bonheur de l’être aimé au-delà de toute aspiration égoïste.”